Q.   Whenever I touch my boyfriend's penis, he pulls my hand away.  And he's never let me give him oral.  What's his problem?  At first I thought he was shy, but it's been six months.  He's very attentive to me; I just want to reciprocate.


A.   Maybe he's insecure about his size or shape, or perhaps he's afraid of cumming too quickly.  He might have been put off by an ex's ham-fisted handjob or the scrape of one too many teeth.  Or it's possible - albeit rare - he just doesn't like being handled.  Whatever the reason, you must respect it.  Six months is long enough to trust someone.  Maybe now's a good time to start talking about sex as well as doing it.