Q. I only orgasm from oral but my boyfriend hates doing it. He will - reluctantly - if I ask, but makes it super-clear he doesn't really want to, which annoys me. I think if he really loved me, he'd want to do it and learn to love it.
A. I'm with you all the way until the 'if he loved me' part. Sexual tastes have nothing to do with love. But trusting someone to be honest does. Put aside your outrage and you may be able to work around his problem. Common reasons for avoiding oral sex are pubic hair (shave), taste/smell (shower first), jaw ache (interchange fingers and tongue), shame (his bag - therapy), and no confidence (reassurance). Don't take it personally, seek a solution.
1 year ago