Q.   My boyfriends ex has just had a baby and he's doing the right thing by seeing the child and providing for him.  But I keep imagining them playing happy families together and it's driving me crazy.  Will he bond with his ex again because of the child? 


A.   Why did they break up in the first place?  Was he uncertain about being a parent?  About her?  Or did she end it?  And does she now want him back?  Either way, if he bonds at all, it will be less with his ex and more with his baby.  Presumably your relationship is quite a new one.  Chances are he's not sure how he feels about being a dad.  You must be sure how you feel about him too. If you want him, all you can do is hang in there patiently.  Because whether he stays or goes, from now on your boyfriend is carrying baggage.  If you two do remain a couple, when the time comes, be ready to welcome his child into your own heart and home.