Q.   I recently met a guy and we started texting and chatting on the phone a lot.  We've since met up and slept together a few times.  He still texts and calls me a lot, and before sex he's always really kissy and cuddly, but then he seems distant afterwards.  I'm starting to really like him, but he says he doesn't know where it's going.  Is he only interested in using me for sex?


A.   Even though your logical, rational side has worked out that this 'relationship' is all about sex, the romantic part of you still wants much more from this guy.  All the things you like about him - the texts, calls, kissing and cuddling - come from the time you spend together before you have sex.  If you're OK and happy for things to continue like that, then carry on sleeping with him.  However, if you're looking for something more permanent - and it seems like you are - it doesn't sound as if this man is going to be the one to provide it.  You need to decide what you really want from a relationship and what's more important to you.  Then ask yourself if this man is really going to be the one to deliver any of it.  If he's not, I suggest you walk away now, before you end up getting your heart broken further down the line.