Q. I've known my best friend's husband for years and he's always been flirty, but recently he put his hand up my skirt. I told him to stop, but I don't want to make a big deal about it and spoil the friendship between our two families. Was I right to hold back?

A. This man knows you'll be reluctant to tell on him, so he's taking advantage. With the trust that exists between your families, he feels free to have a grope and get away with it. Maybe he's going through a mid-life crisis, but his behaviour is unacceptable. If he does it again, tell him you'll blow the whistle, even if it disrupts both families.