Q. I recently watched porn with my boyfriend for the first time. It was sexy but, ever since, he's been bringing home harder and harder stuff and I feel really uncomfortable about it. He just laughs at me and says I'm naive - am I?

A. I'll tell you what's naive - thinking it's OK to manipulate someone into doing something they don't want to do. It seems that some men find it difficult to understand why hardcore images can upset women so much. I say let's make those men sit and watch a film in which a young man gets gang-banged by a bunch of massive hairy gorillas over a snooker table, while loads of other gorillas laugh about how much he looks like he's enjoying it - then ask them if they're getting closer to the picture! If porn is going to play a part in your sex life, you have to be in control of what you watch. If he's not willing to take you seriously, there are plenty of lovely guys out there who will.