Q. I've just had my first Brazilian wax and when I got home, I looked in the mirror to see the result. I'd never seen myself down there before and was horrified. I hate the way it looks. I've stopped enjoying oral sex now because all I can think about is how ugly it is.

A. Thankfully, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and, clearly, whoever's giving you oral sex doesn't agree with you. It's essential we explore our bodies if we're going to enjoy sex. So you're a bit freaked out about meeting your vagina - that's understandable, but don't let it spoil your fun (or your man's). Luckily we don't have to find our body bits attractive in order to have great sex - we just have to accept that men do, and be grateful for it. Also, remember that you can look a bit battered after a wax - think what you've just put your body through! Leave it a few days and you'll probably look less red and swollen.