Q. My husband's penis is enormous, and all my friends are jealous. What I can't tell them is that if he puts anything more than the tip of it inside me, it really hurts. What can I do?

A. When talk turns to penises, the general how-can-it-be-wrong consensus is that bigger is better. But that's not always the case. The Karma Sutra, the ancient book of lovemaking, claims that men's and women's genitals come in three different sizes. While we now know it's not as simple as saying you're a small, medium or large, the message is clear - not everyone's 'moan zones' match up perfectly. But if your man is more of an XL, it doesn't have to be a problem if you take it slow and switch to shallow-penetration positions. Don't feel awkward and waste time subtly suggesting you try something new tonight - just jump him. Straddle your man on a padded armchair so you can control how deep he goes. Or try spooning, where you both lie on your sides, him behind you. Less of him equals more fun for you. And don't forget to make a lubricant a bedside-drawer must-have from now on.