Q. I still love my husband but we just don't have good sex any more. He thinks it's a problem with my libido, but I fantasise about other men all the time. What can I do? I can't force myself to find him attractive.

A. No, but you can look at what's getting in the way of it. Think back to when you first met; what turned you on? Remember the things you did and the effort you made. Great sex is like a buy now, pay later offer; the first few years are free, but at some point you have to join forces to keep the momentum going. Accept this and start working on sexy solutions. Missing the thrill of unknown? Demand oral sex in the car. Missing the excitement of baring yourself to a stranger? Ask him to blindfold you, strip you and touch you while wearing leather gloves. The answers are in your imagination.