Q. My boyfriend loves having sex with me doggy style, but I find it painful. He slows down when I ask him to (he likes it fast) but even then its still uncomfortable. It's his biggest turn-on so I don't want to stop him, but is there a way to make it less painful?

A. Men like doggy style precisely because they can go faster and deeper. Holding your hips gives him ultimate control, not to mention a great view of the action, but if its hurting you or you're not enjoying it - STOP! Sex shouldn't hurt. Whether his penis is too big, he's starting before you're fully turned on or you just don't like being pummelled from behind, grin-and-bear-it sex belongs in a Victorian museum, not a modern girls bedroom. Firstly take control: try girl-on-top but face away so he's looking at the back of you. Bend forward and move as deep and as fast as you like. If he needs to go faster (to orgasm), lift yourself off him but stay there and use your hands to finish him off. If he's worth the effort, his biggest turn-on will actually be your pleasure. Secondly, go to the doctor for a check-up, just to make sure there is no medical reason for that position to hurt you. It can be a sign of an underlying problem.