Q. My girlfriend's bossy most of the time, but in the bedroom, she totally takes over. At first it was sexy having her in charge but I'm starting to feel like her 'bitch'. I'm a metrosexual kind of guy but I still want to feel like a man. That's OK, right?

A. Are you asking my permission? Okay, if you get down on your knees and ask nicely....! When you offer someone the reins, you can't complain when they're taken. You say you want to feel like a man. How does a man feel? Strong, fearless and always in charge of his woman? Being metrosexual means you see yourself as equal to women; that you don't adhere to age-old gender stereotypes. Being like this is making you afraid to take a stand and that's neither manly or womanly - it' s just plain wussy. If you want things to be different, do them differently. She might actually like you to take charge but you have to be convincingly confident or she'll see straight through it. So next time you're in the mood, pull her down onto the bed and tell her exactly what you're going to do.