Q. I initiate all the sex in my relationship. It hasn't always been like this - he used to be all over me. I know things tend to slow down after a while but he seems to have come to a complete stop.

A. A sexual relationship can be like the weather - there are dry spells, followed by flash floods when you can't get enough of each other. You can sit it out, seek a warmer climate or talk to him. If you think it's more than a dry spell, mention that you've noticed his sex drive is low and ask if everything is OK. He might be worried about it, too. Men react sexually to work stress, money worries and boredom - and any one of these could be crushing his sexual desire. Help him get to the root of his problem and you could find a monsoon is just around the corner.