Q. My boyfriend and I rarely sleep together. I told him he's never made me orgasm and he's devastated. We want to work through this but don't know where to start. Is it me?

A. Try exploring masturbation on your own. Discovering if you enjoy vaginal or clitoral stimulation (or both) can help. Many women orgasm during sex through other stimulation but not during intercourse, and some don't orgasm every time. Explore on your own - and together - what feels pleasurable, with no aim of having an orgasm. This removes the pressure from you and him. Also, try looking to see if there are any other factors in your life that are stopping you getting in the mood.