Q. I'm a sex disaster area. I've snagged foreskins on my fingernails, scratched balls with my teeth, bent cocks while on top, and yesterday I headbutted my man and gave him a black eye! Does this happen to anyone else?

A. Once or twice is quite normal - these things happen in the throes of passion - but three or four times in quick succession? Your disasters read like a script for a slapstick S&M porn movie! I know men are bulky, strong and you can wrestle with them, but that rough and tumble does not extend to the bedroom where cock and balls are flying free and vulnerable. They (men and their penises) like to be handled firmly but never roughly. They need to feel confident you know what you're doing and they're safe in your hands. Be gentle with him, for crying out loud. Unlike your vibrator, when he bends in the middle it really could snap.