Q. I'm 28 and was resigned to a single life until I met this guy a year ago through an Internet dating site. We live in different towns but we often meet and talk every day. I think I'm in love. But now he's planning to move to Chicago for work. I was upset but I told him to go for it - he's ambitious, although worried about leaving our relationship. Should I just stop seeing him now to avoid pain later on?

A. Technology brought you together and puts you in touch every day. Why not let it keep you connected? True, long-distance love is risky. But when does love not carry risks? Make no promises to each other and see how it goes. Meanwhile, apply yourself to our own job and other friends. That way, if you slip out of each other's lives altogether, yes, it will hurt, but no more than you can bear. By the way, Chicago is one gorgeous city! Why not plan to go there for your next holiday?