Q. I broke up with my boyfriend because I felt he wasn't good enough for me. Usually I go out with older men as I like someone I can learn from. But now it's over, I can't stop thinking about him, and the idea of him being with another woman bothers me. Should I give us another chance?

A. You can learn from someone older, but only if they happen to know more than you. Just being around longer doesn't make anyone more interesting or necessarily more experienced. You say this man isn't good enough for you, but I suspect you see yourself as a follower and not good enough to proceed in life without a leader. Learning together side by side with a partner can provide lifelong bonding and many happy surprises. So if he's willing, why not give it another try? You have nothing to lose.