Q. I've always felt pretty good about sex but I've started seeing an older, more experienced woman and I've completely lost the plot. I'm too scared of looking stupid to even try to give her an orgasm and I'm find it really hard to come myself.

A. I bet you've also got a crick in your neck from looking up at her on that pedestal you've put her on - no wonder you're like a rabbit caught in the headlights. Take a deep breath, exhale slowly and get a grip. Your older, more experienced woman is choosing to have sex with you because she's attracted to you, so you've already got something right. Stop expecting so much from yourself. It takes time to build a sexual relationship with someone new and if she's as experienced as you say, she won't be expecting you to physically know all her needs in bed - she'll be expecting to teach you. Of course, that's if you're willing to learn - and we all love a trier! :)