Q. I have a high-sex drive but am not that experienced sexually. Whenever I have sex I find that I come pretty quickly, the first time. Subsequent times its a little better. Any advice, help on what I can do to improve? What is a normal length of time a man should last from the point of entering?

A. There is no 'normal' length of time for a man to be in a woman, what is 'normal' anyway?

Men I have personal experience of have ranged from a matter of a few seconds to several hours. Normal is a dreadful word, and we should always do what suits us and makes us feel good. If you're pleasing your partner before you enter her, then trust me she will not care how long you are in. However, if you are banging away for hours but not bothering with foreplay then she will be bored and, sorry to be blunt, sore!

Delay sprays genuinely do work if used properly, so that is an option. Can I recommend www.lovehoney.co.uk to find one. Read the reviews and pick a good one that is proven to work.

Also there is the squeeze technique that genuinely does work if you want to prolong your orgasm.

The Squeeze Technique

1. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate.

2. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the point where the head joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes.

3. After the squeeze is released, wait for about 30 seconds, and then go back to foreplay. You may notice that squeezing the penis causes it to become less erect, but when sexual stimulation is resumed, it soon regains full erection.

4. If you again feel you're about to ejaculate, have your partner repeat the squeeze process.

Repeat this as many times as necessary, because you will reach the point of entering your partner without ejaculating. Remember practice makes perfect and after a few practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation will become a habit that no longer requires the squeeze technique.

Another possibility to prolong your performance is practicing while you are masturbating. When you feel the need to come then stop what you're doing. Also there are ways to control it while you are doing it yourself, by contracting your pelvic floor muscles. You will know which muscles they are if you try to stop yourself when you go to the toilet to pee. If you increase the number of times you contract and release them during the day (and you can do it while you are at work!) :) then you can control your orgasm too.

And lastly stop thinking about it, and how your performance is, because, as surprising as it sounds, women don't take note of these things, if they are satisfied, and you are a generous, considerate lover, then they won't notice how long you are in them. Trust me.