Q. I love sex but I can't orgasm with a man. I get all fired up but start to think he's bored or tired. Sometimes I go into the bathroom after sex and masturbate without him knowing because I'm just desperate to cum. That's not normal is it?

A. I'd never receive a question like this from a man because men feel entitled to their orgasms, whereas we feel we have to be grateful for ours! Stop making their issues your problem. If the man you're with is bored, stop sleeping with him. If he's tired, let him swap arms or alternate his tongue and fingers. Repeat after me, 'I have a right to an orgasm, no matter how long it takes'. Tip: always cum first - chemicals released in a man's brain after he cums makes him sleepy. Also remember there's nothing sexier for him than watching you cum; otherwise he wouldn't bother.