Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for six months and am so happy - except for my jealousy.  He has a lot of female friends and I have just as many male friends.  I know I shouldn't but I check his texts and emails even though I trust him 100%.  How can I stop feeling this way? 


A.   What's irrational jealousy if not a failure of trust?  But you say you trust him, so that must mean there's someone else in this relationship you don't trust.  That must be you.  Odds are you've been hurt in the past.  But this is now, and maybe the future as well.  Please, walk tall.  And develop reasons at work and play to feel great about yourself.  Trust yourself to be lovable and you will find it easier to trust him to love you.