Q. I'm sick of having to make the first move with my girlfriend.... and the second, and the third. She wants me to do everything while she just lies there. It's all on her terms and it's her way or no way. What about me?

A. Good question! Until you ask it, nothing will change. So what about you? Why have you been so willing to let her get away with it? Don't you deserve a good seeing to as well? You can't really blame her for lapping up your attention when you keep giving it. Talk to her, be clear that the sex is too one-sided and you need her to be more active. Don't assume it's because she's lazy or doesn't care - she might feel too shy to take control. Also, it could be that you want more sex than she does, in which case you might have to wait for her to get horny enough.... then she'll get the ball rolling.