Q. My boyfriend's way too fast in bed and sometimes I feel like he's only interested in his own pleasure. How can I get him to slow down and experiment with different rhythms instead of him thrusting in and out of me like a Duracell bunny?

A. He may think he's doing what you like so you need to tell him it's a turn-on to try new stuff. You should take control and show him what feels good for you, with you on top for example. Tell him the speed you want him to go at and say how great it feels. You can also slow things down by focusing on exploring oral sex, masturbation, massage and finding out what else feels good. If he's cumming too quickly, then slowing things down should help, or try using condoms like Durex Performa, which are designed to prolong sex.